One mum’s struggle with hyperemesis gravidarum (not JUST morning sickness)

8 Sep

Princess Kate is expecting her second child….

Princess Kate expecting again

2nd baby is on the way!

With news that the Duchess of Cambridge is expecting her second baby (great news!) came the unfortunate news that she is severely ill again as during her last pregnancy (when she suffered with hyperemesis gravidarum). Our guest blog is from Kimberley, who suffered with this debilitating condition not once, but twice.  Here’s her story….

Kimberley’s struggle with Hyperemesis gravidarum

I married my husband in the summer of 2008 and shortly afterwards we moved into our first home together; life was going very well and we were both enjoying our time as newlyweds. We had spent some time before our marriage talking about if and when to try for a family, and we both agreed that as soon as we were married we should try.

In late November of 2008 I started to feel unwell and just assumed that I had caught the flu or something similar, however as time passed I was becoming more and more sick; my husband suggested that I take a pregnancy test as I had missed my period; to both our surprises I was indeed pregnant. We assumed that I was just suffering from a bit of morning sickness that would shortly pass. How wrong were we? What followed was extreme sickness and constant nausea; I was unable to keep anything down, including fluids; at one point I honestly thought I was going to die. My doctors were very reluctant at first to prescribe any medication as there was a small chance that it could harm the baby. I was signed off sick from work by my doctor when I was only 6 weeks into my pregnancy; I tried returning but each time I would be sick either in the car park or shortly after arriving at the office; I was regularly sent home. The sickness carried on and on and I was so glad to reach 29 weeks so that I could start my maternity leave. Looking back on my pregnancy with Ruby, I am thankful I only had to look after myself and and am grateful that hubbie did a fantastic job of keeping on top of the housework and cleaning out the sick bowls!

In July 2009 I gave birth to Ruby and wow, the minute I delivered the placenta, the sickness completely stopped and I felt so much better. I felt so normal! How could this be?

a new mum struggles with severe morning sickness

Ruby is born after a difficult pregnancy – how cute?

After the horrible pregnancy with Ruby I was reluctant to go through another pregnancy; we wanted Ruby to have a sibling, so we waited until Ruby started to regularly attend preschool before trying to conceive so that if I was struck with HG again, I would have some help looking after Ruby.

Fast forward to November 2011 and I was pregnant again, and due on Ruby’s 3rd birthday; it was like reliving my life from 3 years previous, only this time, the condition much much worse!

The sickness started before I knew I was pregnant; fortunately this time I was clued up about Hyperemesis and armed with my knowledge, I was able to fight for the medical care that I needed.

I refused to take no for an answer second time round and persuaded my doctor to prescribe me with some anti-sickness medication; unfortunately these tablets, and the numerous others that I was subsequently prescribed, didn’t make me feel any better. Nothing was working, and whilst I was looking after Ruby I was becoming more and more drained; I wasn’t coping!

Not just regular morning sickness

I kept asking for help but nobody was doing anything or even listening to me. People were wrongly assuming that I just had regular morning sickness and was being a drama queen. Then one weekend, when I was only 6 weeks into my pregnancy, I could not carry on any more; I was admitted to my local hospital with severe dehydration! I was devastated to be apart from Ruby as I had never spent a single night away from her; it really did break my heart. I was given 5 bags of fluids and countless injections of anti-sickness medication to combat the sickness. After a few days the fluids and medications appeared to be doing the trick and I was discharged from the hospital; however unfortunately it was only a short term fix and it wasn’t long before I was being sick again!

When I was 16 weeks into my pregnancy we went away as a family for a couple of days; it didn’t go to plan as I ended up having to have an emergency appointment with an out of hours doctor because the sickness was taking a hold of me again. Thankfully I saw the most amazing female doctor; without her, I don’t know where I would be. This doctor knew about HG and understood that I really did not want to spend my holiday in hospital and be away from my daughter, so she prescribed anti sickness injections and even administered them for me throughout the trip. Why they could not have done this in my NHS trust I do not know, it would have freed up a bed in hospital and saved us all so much time and money!

Baby Lottie is born after a second difficult pregnancy

Baby Lottie is born after a second difficult pregnancy

I struggled to bond during both of my pregnancies and often referred to the baby as ‘it’; if I am honest, in both instances I resented the baby for making me sick. In both case my husband suggested that it would be in my best interests to have a private gender scan at 16 weeks (the earliest opportunity) to know the sex of the baby and hopefully help me to start to bond. I am pleased to say that it worked and I started to refer to the girls by name and began to fall in love with them.

Looking back I really feel that I was cheated out of my pregnancies; I always imagined I would blossom in pregnancy and enjoy my time as a mum to be, but in reality I hated it!

Hyperemesis gravidarum severe morning sickness

Kimberley’s story in Prima Baby

The good news is that I have survived two Hyperemesis Gravidarum pregnancies and have two beautiful daughters to show for it!

Thanks for sharing your story Kimberley – what a difficult and emotional experience to have gone through.  

To read more by Kimberley, check out her blog Ruby + Lottie!

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