What they don’t tell you about having a new baby

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When I had my first baby, a few of my friends were effectively calling me ‘birth control’.  It was as though new mums had never before spoken about how hard those first few weeks can be, how lonely a new mum sometimes feels and how utterly exhausting it is to have a new-born.  Do you think mums sugar-coat their experience to make it seem like they are coping better than others?  Is it a pride thing, a badge of honour to be the mum with the fewest bags under her eyes?  I thought I would share some of the ‘secrets’ about early parenthood that aren’t in the glossy magazines (with attached pictures of gorgeous celebrities with perfect bodies snuggling up to their new bundles of joy)…

what they don't tell you about motherhood

Things they don’t tell you about being a new mum (that you wish they had)

  • You won’t read a book for a loooong time once the baby arrives
  • You don’t know real true bone tiredness until you’ve had a new-born baby
  • You might hate your husband / partner for a little while
  • Your baby might not sleep through the night from 3 months (or 6, 8 or 18 months!)
  • You might really hate breastfeeding (or you might love it)
  • People might still think you’re pregnant for a little while; you won’t fit into your clothes straight away
  • The baby doesn’t do anything other than feed, sleep, make dirty nappies for the first 6 weeks
  • Your life will be turned upside down, inside and out and backwards

after 6 weeks it gets better

The good stuff

  • The first time your baby smiles will be reward enough for all the sleepless nights
  • It gets easier (and better as it goes along)
  • Many mums who say they’ll never do it again, do (and often multiple times!)
  • There is nothing like the sound of your child’s laughter
  • Once you get over ‘hating’ your partner, you will often love him more
  • If you work at it, you WILL lose your baby weight.
  • You start to measure your successes in different ways – a good day with your baby can be better than running a meeting or achieving at work
  • Your life will be rebalanced, with more excitement than before

Please share with us either things you’d wish you’d been told or some of the good stuff!  Join our next Nurturing Mums postnatal group to chat with other mums who are going through the same things you are.  Please see our Facebook page for details.


One Response to “What they don’t tell you about having a new baby”

  1. theplayingspace October 29, 2012 at 9:05 pm #

    All so true. The thing I wasn’t expecting when I had my first was the BOREDOM! Things improved a lot when I started going to groups and meeting other mums…

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